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Tuning in with your thoughts

Thoughts.. We have so many running in and out of our minds on auto-pilot that we aren’t even aware of most of them..

We have variations of thoughts, some pop up completely random, some we think regularly (like lists of things to do), some are memories from the past and some are illusions of the future.

Most of the time we don’t even know because we aren’t even aware of our thoughts, they’re running in and out without a pause to observe or contemplation.

With awareness and observation of your thoughts you get to know yourself better and can make significant changes to improve your life..

  • Taking notice of the voice/tone you speak to yourself in.

We all have a critique up there in the mind, bringing awareness to how we speak to ourselves can be shocking for some people. Also bringing awareness to the tone.Let’s say you’re answering a question in front of a class and getting the answer wrong, the critique within might pipe up and say ‘ well done stupid, you just made yourself look like a right idiot.’ Noticing how you speak to yourself is crucial as it can be really damaging for your self-esteem and confidence.

  • Noticing if you honour yourself and listen to yourself,

Bringing awareness to your thoughts can help you tune in and listen to yourself. Let’s say you’re really tired and run down, all you want is an early night in, then work calls and asks you to work a shift and before you even know it you’ve said yes. Inside you’re screaming no and can’t think of anything worse, but you felt compelled to say yes to please others, to make others happy even if that means you suffer. That is not giving yourself the love and care you deserve.

  • Noticing how you interact with others, are you judgemental/critical?

We all fear judgement from others, that is why we do what others expect from us. We care about what others think of us, whether they know us or not. Bring awareness to your thoughts and you will notice the judgements and labels you put on people just from their appearance or actions. You may decide you don’t like your mum’s new boyfriend because the first time you meet him he is very quiet and appears rude by not making an effort. This would be your judgement, probably without considering how he would be feeling, perhaps scared,nervous or overwhelmed. Usually through judging others we make assumptions which aren’t accurate and lose the chance of connection and new relationships.

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Taking responsibility instead of blaming others

We have control over ourselves, we have the power.

By blaming someone, we give that power away, we give it to them. We are saying, it is your fault that I feel like this – which is essentially saying, you have control over me and my feelings.

Saying someone else creates your suffering is not taking responsibility for yourself. You are in control of your own life.

I used to really struggle with this. I would get so frustrated and upset because other people would do things that annoyed me. I blamed other people for my unhappiness. But it was my perception. I let myself get annoyed at external things beyond my control, until I learned that I control how I  view things.

Last week I began to get stressed and frustrated looking after a child who is pretty demanding and craves attention. My mind was on auto-pilot thinking, ‘ she’s so demanding, ungrateful, needy and controlling. it’s her way or no way.’ This kind of thinking just led me to feel more and more annoyed every time she’d have a new injury or be demanding my attention without any patience.

When I became aware of my thoughts I realized the effect they where having on my body (stress,anxiety,muscle tension) and how I was acting colder, blunter with the child. Both things I didn’t want.

So as I stepped out of auto-pilot, I took responsibility because I know that it was only my perception at fault. The way I was viewing the situation was as if my thoughts and assumptions where the truth. Thoughts and assumptions are not truth.

Instead I decided to be curious, this child would never choose to be this unhappy with herself, she doesn’t choose to get stressed out,cry at little things, she doesn’t choose to be so needy and demanding of her mum. There must be more depth to it than I am currently viewing. I understood she has insecurities, she needs attention because she is missing something. With understanding, I began to grow compassion and empathy and realised theres a lot more depth to this little person than I know.

There’s a lot more depth to each and every person, more than we will ever know.

So I had that transformation with our relationship, by taking responsibility and deciding to change my views instead of just blaming her for my anxious state.

When we take responsibility for ourselves, we recognize our power and control. We recognize the freedom of choice.

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Finding Balance in your life

Finding balance can be difficult, especially as we have so many different areas of our lives to balance.

Creating this equal balance in our lives takes time and effort to tune in with ourselves, to listen to gut feeling and intuition, to know if we are doing too much or could push ourselves to do more.

Its about experimenting and learning about yourself. Learning to trust your body, it takes great care of you and will always let you know if something is wrong and therefore out of balance. This is why it’s so important to be present and take time daily to tune-in with yourself.

People often run around all day, busy or stressed, rushing from one place to another. They probably get symptoms of illness way before they stop and realize, by this time the body is screaming. Where as if you take time daily to listen you will notice even minor symptoms and therefore be able to prevent it getting worse.

If you find yourself constantly tired or ill with lethargic symptoms, cold, flu’s, sickness bugs or digestive problems.. consider why that is.

A few years ago I had a cold every other week. I kept complaining but once i’d get better I went back to normal and the next week I’d be sick again. I never thought about getting to the root of the problem and trying to prevent illness. It turned out I was supressing emotions, living with a unhealthy diet, not enough sleep or too much, drinking a lot of alcohol and spending no time alone. I had completely lost balance of many areas in life, this resulted in feeling lost and constantly run down and lethargic.

Balance is they key to a healthy life. Make time for yourself, only you can figure out a balance for your mind, body and soul. You have to truly listen to you as all our bodies are unique to us

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Recognizing your power within

Have you ever wondered if there’s more to life than just what it is. Have you questioned if there’s more to you?

You have been given the gift of life. Nowadays we don’t seem to appreciate this gift we have been given, who can blame us, we’re not aware of the gift that it is. We are not aware of what we are, who we are, what we can create.

In the west we are growing up in a society so dis-connected to one another and most of all so disconnected with ourselves.

The percentage of mental illness is on the rise, humans are killing each other and the planet that we are blessed to have life on. This is because we are not aware of the gift that we are.

The universe is an incredible thing. The planet we live on is an incredible thing. We as human beings are incredible species.

We all have individual paths but we are not separate, we all come from the same beginning, we are one with life and the earth.

Most of all we are led to forget what powerful creatures we are, the most evolved species that has ever existed on our planet.

Please stop and think, how incredible the history of human beings is, what we have achieved and created. Now tell me that you are hopeless, pointless and worthless… As human beings we all have that capacity to create anything we want, we are all built of the same stuff, it’s belief in yourself and realization that you can bring anything you want into reality, that’s the only difference.

If i told you that there is an incredible power within you that you have been programmed to disconnect with, what would you think? The power of the universe is literally within you. Within all of us. Imagine the world we would live in if we all connected and became aware, believed in this power within us, worked together with our power.

I am not sure how exactly to bring you to recognize your power but I want to simply plant a seed with you and let you think about what I am saying. I came to recognize my power from reading books from people who had teaching techniques and many years experience – perhaps look this way, perhaps look online, research, go to lectures. Educate yourself then decide what you believe in. Give yourself a chance, be open to connecting with something incredible, with the universe that you are a part of.

We are not just human beings, we are part of life, we are part of the universe, we are one with it.

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The Secret – by Rhonda Byrnes – REVIEW

So after reading the secret by Rhonda Byrnes, I thought I have to write a review and let you all in on ‘the secret’. I have read many books that have opened my mind and changed my life through my way of thinking – this is a life altering book and I am truly grateful for finding it.

‘The Secret’ is based on sharing the secret to a fantastic life, a life of abundance and positivity. It is a book that is written by many people; With quotes, true story examples and information on how the secret works. It has scientific research evidence and information. Most of all if you practise what you read you won’t need any of that because you will see things in your life change in front of your eyes – like magic.

Vocabulary wise it’s a good read, not a story but more documented and very simple to follow in short paragraphs and each chapter explains quite easily what it stands for.

the secret works on improving your life – your relationships with people, finances, work/career, health and most importantly your thoughts.

I would suggest you read it over a month or two, not rushing so you can absorb the information and incorporate it into your life.

my experience with the secret –

i began reading the secret in January and I really wasn’t feeling it, it felt forced and I wasn’t open to what it was saying. So, I left it. In May I began again and this time it felt right so I continued. What i first found was that it was based a lot of materialistic things and finances, which made me realize I think of money as a bad thing when really it’s greed that I disagree with. I realised that we attract things through our thoughts in ‘the law of attraction’.

I can’t tell you what the secret and the law of attraction is through this blog but I highly suggest you read it if it interests you.

all I can say is that almost daily occurrences have happened – at first I thought they were coincidences and then there’s just no way when it happens almost daily. Every day I would think of an item of food I needed and every day I would find it in the free box of the hostel I was staying in. So precise it would be mind blowing. Then it started happening with bringing all the kind of people I needed to meet into my life. Then opportunities and experience.

basically if you’re clear in what you want in life all you need to do is ask and believe but most importantly you need gratitude for everything you already have. It truly makes you realise anything is possible, we are able to create anything we want – most of the time we just don’t know what we want because we think so much is impossible – it isn’t!

Show love and gratitude daily for everything – this will change your life in so many ways.

If you’re intrigued – read the secret!

and let me know how you go 🙂

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Are you creating happiness or suffering for yourself?

Most of us hate the thought that we suffer because of our own thoughts or that we create unhappiness for ourselves. We want to blame someone else or other people’s actions or life situations for causing these negative emotions within us. But does that change or transform them? No, it’s just not accepting responsibility.

Im writing this post because I want us all to understand we are responsible for our happiness and for our suffering, when you understand that then you understand you have control over your thoughts and emotions and they don’t control you. Therefore you have the power and control over your happiness and suffering. You choose how to look at things and that’s what decides whether you are sad or happy.

And you may ask how? Whenever you’re sad or suffering in any form whether it’s anger, frustration, depression – question yourself -‘what thoughts am I thinking about myself and others?’ Because everything comes from thought. Thoughts manifest our reality and create our lives because a thought comes through in our words, actions and feelings.

Feelings of anger or resistance may arise within you from what I have just said, that’s not you that’s just the ego that’s inside each and every one of us. Put your ego aside and try it. Go through that feeling of resistance..

For example let’s say you are suffering because you’re feeling like the odd one out in your group of friends, perhaps you feel like you’re not as attractive, you don’t enjoy the same hobbies as them and you feel like they all know what they want in life because they’re smart and you have no idea and feel dumb. Think how those thoughts may be affecting your life. They are full of negativity, putting yourself down, comparing yourself to others and putting pressure on you.

So now you have awareness you would be able to identify these negative thoughts about the situation that makes you unhappy – great! Now you can change that because you have control over your thoughts. To turn it into a positive perspective, recognize that comparison is the thief of joy, there is no point comparing your beauty to another as we are all unique, there’s no one else on the planet like you and that is beautiful in itself. Focusing on what we do like about ourselves creates happy thoughts , whilst for example – perhaps wishing you had darker skin or bigger hips When in reality you are pale and slim, will only cause suffering because that’s not your body, it’s resisting what you are. show love for what you are and embrace it instead of trying to be something you’re not. Embracing our natural beauty is much easier than resisting and trying to change it!

we all have unique paths and different journeys, there is no smart and dumb because we all excel at different things and we’re all lacking in other things, sometimes it takes longer to find out what we excel in but isn’t that exciting, knowing there’s something out there to discover and be great at, you just have to experiment and try new things which is wonderful anyway.

You see everything changes when you change your perspective on things.

you decide whether you bring yourself suffering or joy.

i understand sometimes it’s difficult to see the other way of thinking if you’re too caught up in it, so perhaps ask a friend or write it down. Ask me and il happily try to find a positive outlook on a situation for you.

remember to take time out to think to yourself -what thoughts am I thinking that is creating this suffering or this happiness? Either is good to observe!

the sun is always shining 🙂

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break free from the comfort zone.. It’s not that comfortable

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The purpose of personal development and growth

I practise personal growth and want to grow as a person. What does that actually mean? (No I’m not hoping il get taller 😉 ). It means I am open to change, to learn and develop to become the person I want to be.

The great thing is we can all become the people we want to be – the best person we possibly can, our true selves.

Through practising personal growth and development through self study and self observation, they bring awareness to your thoughts, feelings, words and actions towards yourself and others.

The interesting thing is that most of the time we have no idea what’s holsing us back in the sub conscious mind, it takes talking to people or reading something etc to awaken something within us to make us aware of a situation we want to change. Perhaps we are unaware that we are sometimes unkind, judgemental or dishonest – with self observation of the mind we can become aware of these traits that hold us back from being our true self, ou best self.

To grow also means to go through some challenges. Perhaps see life like a video game, you go through a challenge and have to change to get through level 1 and then something else comes up and you work in it again, uncovering all these layers of yourself so you can be whoever you choose to be.

I am not saying you’re not you now, I am myself now but I know there’s always space for growth, in us all. And it’s exciting – to develop and know there’s always things within us we can change to be happier.

For example – the past few months have been pretty easy going for me but in a sense I’ve felt a bit stuck. I’ve not had anything new come up for me to work on but all in good time I ended up randomly speaking to a woman my age who was so comfortable with being in her own skin, really accepting who she was and her body and being open to expressing that. I found myself upset and in awe – I want to have that freedom of knowing how amazing my body is and how to really let go of any misconceptions. It was relief for me to cry and see this is something I want to change – somewhere for me to develop and grow so I can be free and more towards the person I want to be.

Personal growth is being content with what you have now but being open to more , being open to change. Start with bringing awareness to yourself and you will change your whole life to become the best version of yourself, to know you can change and be whoever you want to be at any moment in life.

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Don’t cry because it’s over, Smile because it happened :)

We all tend to get the post-holiday blues, sad feelings when a relationship ends or when we have to say goodbye to people we really connected with.

The latter relates to me at this moment, especially whilst travelling. I meet so many beautiful, like-minded people who I connect with. We share so many experiences, places, thoughts and feelings and then we have to say goodbye, all too soon. Never certain if we’ll ever see each other again.

Yet it’s entirely up to me how I think about it. We can all dwell on the past, wishing our holiday lasted longer, wishing we’d done something differently, but does that change things? no, because its in the past. The past is unchangeable so don’t create suffering in your present moment for something that cannot be changed.

It’s entirely up to us to think positively or negatively. We have the choice to control how we are thinking. Do we look back on the memories and create suffering for ourselves by wishing we’d could spend longer together, spend longer on holiday.

The thing is the moment may seem all big and important right now, yes its sad, something that made you really happy has just ended. Instead of dwelling on the fact it is no more, why not be grateful that it happened at all. Why not focus on the beautiful memories, be grateful you had that experience and that feeling of happiness, knowing it will come again in the future. Show gratitude for what life has given you and the fact that you will always have those happy memories.

We can always focus on what we dont have once something has gone, that only creates suffering for ourselves as we don’t see how lucky we are to have had it in the first place.

DON’T CRY BECAUSE ITS OVER, SMILE BECAUSE IT HAPPENED 🙂

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Surrender to what is, let go of what was and have faith in what will be :) 

  

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