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Feel the fear and do it anyway

Fear and Denial. That’s what I’ve been working with this week.

Through observing my behaviour and patterns, I have come to recognize that I keep dismissing my desires. Any time an opportunity comes up to create something for myself that I am passionate about, I get excited but then dismiss it with the excuses like –

‘Its not the right time’, ‘ I don’t have the time or energy right now’ , ‘I should just focus on something smaller for now’,

I think the truth is that I am denying what I want because I am scared. Scared to admit to myself and ask for what I want because then I will want to go ahead and pursue it. If I try to pursue it, then I am vulnerable because I am out of my comfort zone in the unknown, which brings up fear.

Fear of failure, fear of embarrassment, fear of not being taken seriously.

I questioned why are these things important to me? I realized it’s only the ego they are important to.It is only my ego that will feel embarrassed, inferior or a failure. And essentially I’m trying to weaken the ego so what’s to hold me back?

If I know within that I have good intentions, that I will try my best and that’s all I can do. Then why let the ego create a false illusion of what might happen in the future because It is afraid of being damaged.

Does this scenario sound similar to you? Are you afraid of stepping out of your comfort zone to try something new for yourself? Are you afraid you will fail, look stupid or have people laugh at you?

Yet if we give in to these fears then we will never move forward, forever thinking ‘What If?’

Deep within ourselves we know what we want, sometimes we are just to scared to tell ourselves it and ask.

I think our purpose is to fulfill our passions and desires, otherwise why would they be there? They are god’s gift to us.

What we do with them is up to us. But fear.. fear is just an illusion, it is what prevents us from looking or searching for our desires, it is our excuse for acting small and inferior because we are afraid to risk things to become what we desire.

I am challenging myself to give up fear, knowing that it is only a limitation. I transform my energy to focusing on what I can do, what I can create, focusing only on the positive with affirmations and visualisation of what I want to create.

Like attracts like, its the Law of Attraction. Eliminate doubt, there is no space for that.

Great things come from the unknown..

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Are you creating happiness or suffering for yourself?

Most of us hate the thought that we suffer because of our own thoughts or that we create unhappiness for ourselves. We want to blame someone else or other people’s actions or life situations for causing these negative emotions within us. But does that change or transform them? No, it’s just not accepting responsibility.

Im writing this post because I want us all to understand we are responsible for our happiness and for our suffering, when you understand that then you understand you have control over your thoughts and emotions and they don’t control you. Therefore you have the power and control over your happiness and suffering. You choose how to look at things and that’s what decides whether you are sad or happy.

And you may ask how? Whenever you’re sad or suffering in any form whether it’s anger, frustration, depression – question yourself -‘what thoughts am I thinking about myself and others?’ Because everything comes from thought. Thoughts manifest our reality and create our lives because a thought comes through in our words, actions and feelings.

Feelings of anger or resistance may arise within you from what I have just said, that’s not you that’s just the ego that’s inside each and every one of us. Put your ego aside and try it. Go through that feeling of resistance..

For example let’s say you are suffering because you’re feeling like the odd one out in your group of friends, perhaps you feel like you’re not as attractive, you don’t enjoy the same hobbies as them and you feel like they all know what they want in life because they’re smart and you have no idea and feel dumb. Think how those thoughts may be affecting your life. They are full of negativity, putting yourself down, comparing yourself to others and putting pressure on you.

So now you have awareness you would be able to identify these negative thoughts about the situation that makes you unhappy – great! Now you can change that because you have control over your thoughts. To turn it into a positive perspective, recognize that comparison is the thief of joy, there is no point comparing your beauty to another as we are all unique, there’s no one else on the planet like you and that is beautiful in itself. Focusing on what we do like about ourselves creates happy thoughts , whilst for example – perhaps wishing you had darker skin or bigger hips When in reality you are pale and slim, will only cause suffering because that’s not your body, it’s resisting what you are. show love for what you are and embrace it instead of trying to be something you’re not. Embracing our natural beauty is much easier than resisting and trying to change it!

we all have unique paths and different journeys, there is no smart and dumb because we all excel at different things and we’re all lacking in other things, sometimes it takes longer to find out what we excel in but isn’t that exciting, knowing there’s something out there to discover and be great at, you just have to experiment and try new things which is wonderful anyway.

You see everything changes when you change your perspective on things.

you decide whether you bring yourself suffering or joy.

i understand sometimes it’s difficult to see the other way of thinking if you’re too caught up in it, so perhaps ask a friend or write it down. Ask me and il happily try to find a positive outlook on a situation for you.

remember to take time out to think to yourself -what thoughts am I thinking that is creating this suffering or this happiness? Either is good to observe!

the sun is always shining 🙂

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A daily Affirmation on being confident with who you are

I have confidence to fully express myself, whatever I am feeling I honour it and flow with it. I am acting only in confidence because I truly believe in myself and know that I am a beautiful person. I know others can see the beauty within me as I see the beauty within them – that divinity comes from the same place. Being confident means knowing who I am and who I want to be – having no shame, embarrassment or resistance as I transcend into acceptance, embracing all that I am and being sure that I love who i am because essentially I am whoever I choose to be, I have that power within myself.

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Affirmation

Sometimes the mistake we make is to tell ourselves something is hard. If we tell ourselves its going to be hard, how can it be easy? Our mind is putting that negative vibe out that it’s going to be hard.

‘Its too hard to change my beliefs and negative thoughts’

‘Breaking this bad habit is going to be hard’

‘This essay is going to be so hard to do’

‘It’s so hard to lose weight’

‘I have to work hard to make a lot of money’

‘It’s too hard to get work’

Think about what you’re thinking and saying.. turn it into something positive!

The sun is always shining 🙂

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Having faith doesn’t have to be related to a specific religion

Faith, religion, beliefs. What do they all actually mean?

I used to say i hate religion, it causes war. I thought you only had beliefs if you followed a religion and as I didn’t believe in anything, I didn’t have faith.

In reality we are all religious to some extent, we live our lives following our own beliefs about things perhaps not about a god but we do have beliefs about how the world works.

The other evening I had a very interesting discussion with a man when he questioned If I was religious. I said I was trying to remain open minded to my beliefs as I was open to change and developing new beliefs. This man was an athiest and therefore did not consider himself religious as such.

I explained to him that in recent months my beliefs had changed, I started believing in a ‘higher power’, a ‘god’ if you like. I believe that we are all a creation of the higher power, therefore we have a part of the higher power within us. I don’t relate the higher power to any specific religion but only what I choose it to be. The man questioned why I believed in this, and its simply because my life has changed drastically in the last 6 months since I’ve had faith in a higher power.

Carrying on with the conversation, he started questioning me on my values of letting things go, not reacting to situations and creating suffering for myself and others. The scenario he used was

‘Someone pushes into you in the street and starts having a go at you, pushing you about, would you not defend yourself and fight back?’

There’s a difference I believe in defending ourselves and fighting back. Fighting only causes more conflict, drama and suffering – for myself and the other person involved. It is only the ego within us that wants to fight back and react.

My reply was ‘I would try to respond, not react’. Many hurtful words and actions come from the ego’s reaction, whereas if we take a step back and respond to the situation calmly, we will get a different response from the other person.

Back to beliefs – This man couldn’t understand that I didn’t have any future plans, goals, what I will be doing in 5 or 10 years time. This does work for some people, you might be one, on the other hand you may be like me and get stressed or anxious if we set high goals for ourselves and look too far into the uncertain future.

I have faith that in 5 years time I will be doing exactly what I need to be doing. I believe that anything that comes my way is meant to be, i will try to accept everything that comes with open arms instead of resistance. Having faith in the higher power means I feel safe, it means i can live life from a place of love instead of fear. I have always been worried about what I’d do in the future, now I feel that it’s ok, all is well, all will work out just as they’re meant to.

Some people may read this and think, ‘she’s living in lala land not reality’. I probably would’ve read this two years ago and thought the same. The reason I believe the way I do is simply because I am living proof. I chose a completely different path of life to the one I had planned, It scared me to death not having plans for my future.  Hence I was wasting the present moment of my life, which lead to months of worrying and anxiety because I was looking too far into the future. Now I see it was all exactly how it was meant to be, those months of suffering was to get me to where I am today. I wouldn’t be in Australia, writing this blog right now otherwise, and right now there’s no other place I’d rather be.

The conversation ended up with me starting to feel slightly anxious about my future, with my mind starting to build up thoughts of setting myself a plan. The thing is life changes, plans change and I have no control over that. Therefore I will go with the flow, experience what I need to that’ll give me answers, and have faith that everything that I need will come to me.

Faith comes from a place of love, not fear.

I’m not saying you should all believe in a god, or a higher power. I’m saying, believe in whatever you want to believe in. Become interested, pay attention to your beliefs. What do you really believe in, forget about society, family and friends – they’re not you and they will respect whatever you choose. 🙂

If anyone is interested in reading more about positive affirations, how energy connects us and the higher power then have a read of Louise.L.Hay’s books or Eckhart Tolle. Life changing 🙂

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