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Working 9-5 what a way to make a living…

Why is it that we buy into the 9-5 working way of living…

As 5 year olds in school we have great dreams of becoming astronauts, ballet dancers, actors and so on.. So why is it that we lose this drive, this passion to fulfill our ambitions.

Of course as we grow older our passions might change but even then we find ourselves settling for things on a much smaller scale because we no longer believe our dreams are achievable.

Growing up, we are surrounded in a society that has been set in a trap, we’re programmed with limiting beliefs that do not serve us, that ‘real’ life is hard and that dreams are just dreams.

From a young age in school we are taught that we are dumb or stupid if we don’t pass the exams they set us, even though we are all different with various IQ and emotional intelligence. Slowly our dreams floats away.. we are told we have to be realistic and not live in a fantasy land.

The truth is we are being tricked out of our lives. We leave school with a lot of fear, confusion, self-doubt and insecurities, mostly from comparison to others because we are expected all to do the same things and then compare ourselves for not being the same.

In my opinion, it’s all intentional, so that with these insecurities we can work for the system.

By working for the system I mean spending the majority of our life working to earn money, just so we can then give it back to the system by buying a big house, a nice car and the latest gadgets and materialistic things.

The marketing world makes us believe that by purchasing the latest gadgets, going on exotic holidays and owning a flash car – it will make us happy and prove our success.

We have bought into the statement that ‘Money buys happiness’. With the insecurities we have from leaving school. we have something great to prove so when we earn money, we want to buy things to prove our success, to ourselves and others. We want to own the latest gadget or newest car.. not really for ourselves but for what others will think of us.

That comes from that insecurity that was ingrained within from a young age. We constantly want more, because the marketing world will always bring new things into creation and to want to keep proving our success, we will always be buying more. We will never feel fulfilled with what we have, not whilst someone else has more than us.

And so we become slaves to the system.. spending fifty years of our lives working for money, just to spend it back on materialistic things that actually only bring us short-term happiness, so that we have to go back to working the long hours just to buy the next big thing.. a continuous cycle of dis-contentment and unfulfillement.

We are lucky to then have our health after we retire, all these things but our lives have passed us by.. Or many have a mid-life crisis from recognizing their deep unhappiness from being alive but not really living. More so, nowadays mental illnesses are on the rise within young adults from the self-doubt, fear of the future and simply feeling lost.

I ask you to question whatever your doing, question your intentions and what you really want out of your life.

Perhaps you say you want a lot of money, why? We all want to be comfortable but there is no need for greed.

Imagine if you worked your own hours, doing something you dream about and serves your passion.. that would bring you fulfillment, time spent working would be more like doing a hobby and you would have spare time to do things for yourself or your family. All you need is self-belief that you can actually create any kind of life that you want, know that any limiting beleifs that you cannot do that, are not real. Recognize the potential within yourself, within all of us.

We are the creators of our lives, its time we began to live up to it.

Follow your dreams and unleash your power

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Recognizing the power behind your thoughts

Recognizing how your thoughts create an impact on your life is essential for everyone, especially if you find yourself suffering from unhappiness, discontentment, depression, anxiety and stress.

All of which are the outcome of negative thought patterns.

The good news.. we can change our thought patterns into positive ones, creating a positive life!

Our thoughts create our reality..

WHAT DOES THIS MEAN, you may well ask.

THOUGHTS  =  EMOTION  =  SENSATION  =  ACTION/ IMPULSE/ BEHAVIOUR.

Let’s say for example,

The kid’s are fighting (scenario)

‘These kids never listen to me, I can’t cope with this right now’ (thought)

Overwhelming feeling of stress and anxiety. (emotion)

tightness in the chest, shorter breath and muscle tension. (sensations)

shouting at the children, crying and perhaps smack them. (Action/Impulse/Behaviour)

Another example,

You’re with your partner and he’s talking to his really kind and beautiful friend. (scenario)

‘Why is he with me when he could do so much better, what if he leaves me because i’m not good enough.’ (thought)

Overwhelming feeling of panic, jealousy, anxiety. (emotion)

Heavy feeling in the stomach, adrenaline, fast heart beat (sensations)

Act needy and insecure with the partner, controlling and demand the partner not to see her again. (action/impulse/behaviour)

So, you see how easy it is for our thoughts to affect our reality? Creating and shaping our lives and the situations that arise.

Bring awareness to your thoughts and recognize the power behind them, this way you are taking control of your life and choosing what you bring into your reality and what you attract.

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Freedom of thought, freedom from thought

You are not your thoughts. How many times have we heard this? But do we really understand it, most importantly do we understand the message it gives us.

That is that we have freedom from thought, if we are not our minds then we are free from it’s negative thinking.

My intention for this blog has always been to bring awareness to people, in hope that you become aware of your thoughts and how they create your reality.

We don’t choose what thoughts pop into our minds most of the time, but we do have a choice on how to perceive those thoughts. That choice only comes once you know and you are aware that you can differentiate yourself from the minds thinking.

For example –

Let’s say Lucy who struggles with self-esteem, wants to try for the dance team but doesn’t feel she can because her mind is in a negative spiral, it says things like ‘I’ll let the team-down, I’m not good enough, what if the others just laugh at me..I am a failure.’

Without awareness, Lucy accepts this as the truth. She thinks she is her mind, therefore her thoughts are facts.

If Lucy was to bring her awareness to this negative thinking by pausing the auto-pilot mode that she lives in, she would be able to challenge that thought and realize, its just a negative thought, it’s not the truth.

This is not true. We are not our thoughts, we do not choose them and they’re not the truth. Something negative happens in the past, we take it personally and hold on to that hurt instead of letting it go, then our minds remember and project it into the future and create our new thoughts based on the past experiences, creating more negativity in our lives.

Try body scanning, or a stillness meditation, observe what thoughts come up or what feelings and sensations that you experience in your body.. then recognize that you are the observer. You are not the thought, you are the one watching it.

‘What a liberation to realize that “the voice in my head” is not who I am. Who am I then? The one who sees that.’  – Eckhart.Tolle

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balance

balanceBALANCE IS THE KEY OF LIFE

oh, and elephants are awesome.. especially elephants practising yoga in balancing postures!

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Balance – the key to a happy life

Balance, equal measures, yin and yang.

Whatever way you want to perceive it.

Balance is something we strive for in our lives. We all essentially want a balanced lifestyle because balance is the key to happiness.

We need self-discipline to motivate us to do the things we don’t like, balanced with self-love and compassion to be able to listen to ourselves and not push ourselves beyond our limits.

There needs to be a balance between work and play, most of society spends most of their lives working either long hours or in high-stress jobs that once they get home, all they want to do is crash out. Finding balance in your work environment is very important so you remember to play, enjoy hobbies and relationships.

We all crave balance in our relationships, whether it’s with family, friends or spouse. We want equal effort from both parts or the relationship suffers. If one person makes more effort than the other, it is not a balanced healthy relationship.

We need a healthy balanced diet for our mental and physical health, this in some cases is a problem when one might eat only junk food, processed foods and candy, its equally as big of a problem when one only eats salads, fruit and veg. There needs a variety and balance to be healthy.

When an area of life is off- balance it can create stress, illness, suffering and unhappiness.

It is fundamental for your health and your life, how you are as a person. Finding balance isn’t always easy and it’s very easy to get knocked off balance when certain situations/events happen, but figuring out a way to get back to that equality and steady ground – that is what we should all be aiming for.

Maintaining a balanced life is the key to having a good life.

(My next post will be tips and advice on how to find/maintain balance

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The Secret – by Rhonda Byrnes – REVIEW

So after reading the secret by Rhonda Byrnes, I thought I have to write a review and let you all in on ‘the secret’. I have read many books that have opened my mind and changed my life through my way of thinking – this is a life altering book and I am truly grateful for finding it.

‘The Secret’ is based on sharing the secret to a fantastic life, a life of abundance and positivity. It is a book that is written by many people; With quotes, true story examples and information on how the secret works. It has scientific research evidence and information. Most of all if you practise what you read you won’t need any of that because you will see things in your life change in front of your eyes – like magic.

Vocabulary wise it’s a good read, not a story but more documented and very simple to follow in short paragraphs and each chapter explains quite easily what it stands for.

the secret works on improving your life – your relationships with people, finances, work/career, health and most importantly your thoughts.

I would suggest you read it over a month or two, not rushing so you can absorb the information and incorporate it into your life.

my experience with the secret –

i began reading the secret in January and I really wasn’t feeling it, it felt forced and I wasn’t open to what it was saying. So, I left it. In May I began again and this time it felt right so I continued. What i first found was that it was based a lot of materialistic things and finances, which made me realize I think of money as a bad thing when really it’s greed that I disagree with. I realised that we attract things through our thoughts in ‘the law of attraction’.

I can’t tell you what the secret and the law of attraction is through this blog but I highly suggest you read it if it interests you.

all I can say is that almost daily occurrences have happened – at first I thought they were coincidences and then there’s just no way when it happens almost daily. Every day I would think of an item of food I needed and every day I would find it in the free box of the hostel I was staying in. So precise it would be mind blowing. Then it started happening with bringing all the kind of people I needed to meet into my life. Then opportunities and experience.

basically if you’re clear in what you want in life all you need to do is ask and believe but most importantly you need gratitude for everything you already have. It truly makes you realise anything is possible, we are able to create anything we want – most of the time we just don’t know what we want because we think so much is impossible – it isn’t!

Show love and gratitude daily for everything – this will change your life in so many ways.

If you’re intrigued – read the secret!

and let me know how you go 🙂

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A daily Affirmation on being confident with who you are

I have confidence to fully express myself, whatever I am feeling I honour it and flow with it. I am acting only in confidence because I truly believe in myself and know that I am a beautiful person. I know others can see the beauty within me as I see the beauty within them – that divinity comes from the same place. Being confident means knowing who I am and who I want to be – having no shame, embarrassment or resistance as I transcend into acceptance, embracing all that I am and being sure that I love who i am because essentially I am whoever I choose to be, I have that power within myself.

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Are we bikini body ready? … WHY SHOULD WE CARE?

Are you bikini body ready?… WHO CARES. What does that even mean? I know what it’s supposed to mean, it’s the media pressurizing everyone to look a certain way, feeling guilty or insecure if they don’t conform once again to the expectations.

Everywhere in the world, during the run up to Summer especially, there is a ridiculous amount of pressure on people to look good. Are you bikini body ready is just the latest example.

I remember years ago before a holiday I would exercise more, eat less cake etc to try to achieve a ‘bikini body’.

And what for exactly? That was something I never questioned myself.

Are we any better for having less fat, more muscle, toned butts and no jiggly bits.. Nope.

Isn’t it all a part of what society expects from us? We do a bikini body challenge not to make ourselves feel better, most of the time it’s to look better for the people that will see us. We can’t be the fattest one in the group of friends.. yet that only leads to work of the ego. Feeling superior or inferior to another is only the ego talking.

Our ego works on form. Our soul is the space within. Everything in the world is form and space so why is it that we only concentrate on form? The physical body, our appearances. Why should we be bikini body ready, does it make us any better than those who don’t prepare for bikini weather, does it make us kinder, nicer?

The truth is our physical form is an important part of who we are, it identifies us and makes us unique, another reason why we shouldn’t conform to society’s expectations to all look the same.

Note I say the physical form is an important PART of who we are, that’s exactly it.. its only a part. We are so much more than just what we look like on the outside. When we can connect with the space that’s within us, then we can relate and understand who we truly are and what’s important to us.

I’m not saying we shouldn’t take care of ourselves and care about what we look like, but we should do it only for ourselves. We should look like exactly what we want to, that’s to say if you want a 6 pack then go make it happen, If however you feel like you don’t want to spend your time in the gym working for a 6 pack then accept that it’s not a priority for you and shouldn’t have to be.

I have met many people in bikinies over the last few months whilst travelling.. the ones with toned, fit bodies are no better or worse than the ones with a bit more fat. The fit ones are no worse people for spending time working out and being careful about what they eat if that is a personal choice of what they want to look like etc, and the curvier ones are no worse for not working out excessively to fit into a tinsy bikini.

The truth is we are born bikini ready. We have bodies, so lets slip them into bikinies whatever we look like. Lets be grateful to have working, functioning, healthy beautiful bodies. Let’s celebrate that we are all unique, we are all different and beautiful in each and every way. Let’s be proud that there is no other being on this earth like us, celebrating everything that we are, the good bits and the better bits (because really there are no bad bits, its all an illusion created by the media).

I would one day like to live in a world that concentrates more on the space within instead of just our physical form, over and over again. Why not preach for people to show gratitude, love and kindness instead?

LOVE YOURSELF FOR WHO YOU ARE 🙂

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Don’t cry because it’s over, Smile because it happened :)

We all tend to get the post-holiday blues, sad feelings when a relationship ends or when we have to say goodbye to people we really connected with.

The latter relates to me at this moment, especially whilst travelling. I meet so many beautiful, like-minded people who I connect with. We share so many experiences, places, thoughts and feelings and then we have to say goodbye, all too soon. Never certain if we’ll ever see each other again.

Yet it’s entirely up to me how I think about it. We can all dwell on the past, wishing our holiday lasted longer, wishing we’d done something differently, but does that change things? no, because its in the past. The past is unchangeable so don’t create suffering in your present moment for something that cannot be changed.

It’s entirely up to us to think positively or negatively. We have the choice to control how we are thinking. Do we look back on the memories and create suffering for ourselves by wishing we’d could spend longer together, spend longer on holiday.

The thing is the moment may seem all big and important right now, yes its sad, something that made you really happy has just ended. Instead of dwelling on the fact it is no more, why not be grateful that it happened at all. Why not focus on the beautiful memories, be grateful you had that experience and that feeling of happiness, knowing it will come again in the future. Show gratitude for what life has given you and the fact that you will always have those happy memories.

We can always focus on what we dont have once something has gone, that only creates suffering for ourselves as we don’t see how lucky we are to have had it in the first place.

DON’T CRY BECAUSE ITS OVER, SMILE BECAUSE IT HAPPENED 🙂

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The difference between reacting and responding

I have briefly touched up on the difference between reacting to a situation rather than responding. Some people have sensitive reaction modes and will be seen as short-tempered, mouthy or temperamental. Short-tempered people who fit that category of being reactive are the same as everyone else of course, it’s all unconscious behaviour, they’re unaware that their egos have taken over. We all tend to react from time to time, we have different fuses if you like.

Noticing when you are reacting is the key. Becoming aware, being present in the moment and thinking, ‘how can I respond to this?’ instead of being on auto-pilot without really thinking and then reacting.

When I say reacting, it usually means –

-Raised voice/Shouting

– Sarcasm

– Anger/Frustration

– Lashing out/ throwing things/ hitting things

Reaction = More conflict, suffering and negative feelings

Responding = Open, honest discussion. Solving and creating solutions, being aware on both parts.

With responding you are actually thinking about the situation. We essentially want to live in harmony amongst each other, not war, this means as individuals also.

I have a great example as I just had a situation I had to deal with.

A man sat next to me to watch a movie in the hostel, he smelled of alcohol and was drinking a bottle of wine so I knew he was pretty drunk from his behaviour. After a while he began stroking my leg, I waited a few minutes because I wasn’t sure if I was mistaken. But no, he was pretty obvious stroking my leg. I looked at him and he still didn’t stop. I didn’t know how to react or respond.. So I walked away.

Taking time out to think about the situation, I decided to confront him. I didn’t want drama, I just wanted him to be aware of his actions and know they weren’t appropriate. So calmly I just told him I didn’t think it was appropriate and that I now felt uncomfortable. He was full of apology and excuses, yet we where able to discuss the situation calmly and I hope I made him think about his actions.

If I had instantly reacted and shouted at him, he probably would’ve shouted back at me, denied it etc. I wouldn’t of got him to think about his actions or my feelings because by shouting we’re never really listening. Our minds are already in defense mode, we just want to keep going until we win. I would’ve offended him and he would’ve offended me back, with no solving just more drama and complication.

Usually the more we practise the easier it becomes, it becomes a habit. Think about what you want to create, do you want to create more drama and negativity? Or do you want to create a solution and solve things.

We say we want peace not war. Lets prove it, lets start changing things, beginning with ourselves. 🙂

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