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Don’t cry because it’s over, Smile because it happened :)

We all tend to get the post-holiday blues, sad feelings when a relationship ends or when we have to say goodbye to people we really connected with.

The latter relates to me at this moment, especially whilst travelling. I meet so many beautiful, like-minded people who I connect with. We share so many experiences, places, thoughts and feelings and then we have to say goodbye, all too soon. Never certain if we’ll ever see each other again.

Yet it’s entirely up to me how I think about it. We can all dwell on the past, wishing our holiday lasted longer, wishing we’d done something differently, but does that change things? no, because its in the past. The past is unchangeable so don’t create suffering in your present moment for something that cannot be changed.

It’s entirely up to us to think positively or negatively. We have the choice to control how we are thinking. Do we look back on the memories and create suffering for ourselves by wishing we’d could spend longer together, spend longer on holiday.

The thing is the moment may seem all big and important right now, yes its sad, something that made you really happy has just ended. Instead of dwelling on the fact it is no more, why not be grateful that it happened at all. Why not focus on the beautiful memories, be grateful you had that experience and that feeling of happiness, knowing it will come again in the future. Show gratitude for what life has given you and the fact that you will always have those happy memories.

We can always focus on what we dont have once something has gone, that only creates suffering for ourselves as we don’t see how lucky we are to have had it in the first place.

DON’T CRY BECAUSE ITS OVER, SMILE BECAUSE IT HAPPENED 🙂

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Let us not define who we are now, by what happened in the past. Let it go.

Let us not define who we are NOW, by what happened in the PAST.

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Live in the present

Today I was able to connect with a lovely lady from Amsterdam. She was very open and honest with me, although we were merely strangers she cried with me and I comforted her and then listened to what was behind her pain.

That’s what we can create when we are simply real with ourselves and each other. We let people in and they can help us. We let go of the horrible thoughts and negative emotions and get rid of them, we let them flow out of our bodies through words, tears and emotions. 

This lovely lady is on her journey after suffering from depression for years after pushing and plodding on through life doing what was expected of her instead of what she wanted, that would make her happy. After years of doing things to please others, she forgot who she was.. she was living her life as a person other people wanted her to be.

She has overcome many things yet she was sat crying with me. I asked her why.

She felt hurt, hurt that she had wasted years of her life being depressed and feeling so negative about herself and life.

I then questioned her – In 5 years time won’t you look back at this time now and think exactly the same, you’re finding yourself yet you’re still living in the past, beating yourself up about wasting years being depressed. I said, isnt that exactly what you’re doing now, wasting this present moment, beating yourself up, hurting yourself, over the past years that cant be changed?

She looked at me like a light had just gone off – it all made sense.

The present moment is all we have, with it we create our future. So this lady was wasting more time of her life beating herself up over the past that cannot be changed. Its something we all do. beat ourselves up, regretting something that happened in the past, thinking what ifs – but the truth is we’re wasting our lives living in the past. we can only change the future as we create it in the present moment. 

I hope this helps anyone who finds themselves always thinking in the past, wishing it could have been different. 

Sometimes we have to accept things that happened, leave them in the past and let go.

Then we can concentrate on living and doing things in the present moment to create the future we want.

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